When Blakely was 18 months previous, my husband and I made a decision to begin the adoption course of. Considering of getting one other youngster the ‘regular’ approach opened up every kind of trauma wounds for us, so we determined that attempting to undertake was the subsequent greatest plan of action.
We selected home toddler adoption, which implies that expectant moms select adoptive households by means of an adoption company. We waited, hoping to be chosen by an expectant mother for nearly 5 years.
It was throughout this time that I joined my native FIT4MOM and I can’t inform you how invaluable it was to me. Constantly getting out to the park for contemporary air, sunshine, motion, and time with mama-friends actually helped throughout significantly exhausting days. As a result of not solely had been we ‘going by means of the adoption course of’ by maintaining with ALL the paperwork, but additionally ‘going by means of the adoption course of’ by going through rejection again and again for years, coping with scammers, and potential matches that led to us getting ghosted. The ready and rejection had been very exhausting, however my group with FIT4MOM was at all times there to lend a listening ear, present a heat meal, take part in our fundraisers, and watch my daughter after I simply wanted a break.
Regardless of all of this assist, hope ultimately started to dwindle and conversations of “will we simply hand over?” began available between my husband and me. Then in the future, our adoption company despatched out an e-mail asking if any of the ready households would need to contemplate switching to their embryo adoption program. Our degree of desperation had apparently gotten to the extent the place we had been really open to the thought despite the fact that I by no means thought I might be open to the thought of being pregnant ever once more.
We determined to go for it. After ready to undertake for therefore lengthy, it felt prefer it was in all probability our solely likelihood to have one other youngster. After which once we had been instantly chosen by a donor household, that solely solidified our perception that we had been heading in the right direction.
After the embryo adoption was finalized, we started the IVF course of. Over the subsequent a number of months, we transferred 2 embryos which resulted in a chemical being pregnant, obtained an endometriosis prognosis, had surgical procedure, transferred 2 extra embryos, after which tragically had one other miscarriage.
This was the bottom of the low… THE LOWEST.
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